Let Go of Control to get Control of your Life and Enjoy the Freedom and Be Happy

Try to control yourself from controlling.

There is good control , bad control … but it’s still control. When we control others by wanting them to be in a certain way, do certain things, say certain words, wear something that we think it’s right, eat or not eat something that we agree with etc etc – it’s obvious plain to see , control. When you want someone to like you, love you, agree with you, accept you, not reject you or leave you etc- it is covert ( hidden ,subtle ) control. You do this when you act in a way to get the response you wish for from the other to obtain your goals for the sake of feeling less hopeless, helpless, vulnerable and more loved and accepted.

Please try to look from the outside throughout your day and exert as little control as possible in your relationship with yourself, your loved one, the outside world.

Ultimately, it will bounce back and hurt you, not help you.

It will ultimately take away ALL control of everything in your life.

It’s important you use your strong brain in a positive way.

Always sit on top of your brain but learn to SURRENDER in doing so.

In surrendering you take control over your negative side that’s causing you so much havoc and pain.

And I really want to give you freedom from your own shackles imposed by your long life circumstances and your own insecurities and vulnerabilities.

Acknowledging and allowing your vulnerabilities to be exposed, knowing full well you may or not get hurt as the case may be – gives you greater power than ever. And it is in this that lies the real STRENGTH.

It is this that creates attraction for you all around and brings people closer to you. Showing weakness and fragility is very empowering and more attractive than anything.

No … I’m not saying be and act the victim … the weakling – not at all.

Allow yourself your soft natural lovable and loving human side to exist and you will see how magic happens.

Leave hurt and doubts to the past.

Today is the Now.


Imagine the chrysalis, the caterpillar, the butterfly.

This is you.

Soon it is spring.

Grow your new beautiful wings and prepare to fly and enjoy the sunny skies that you’ve forgotten for so long.

Learn to exist into the new higher vibration and allow change. Let go of control and exist in the power of surrendering and accepting you are human, allowed to make mistakes. Learn lessons from them and apply them to your life. Learn to love yourself and accept yourself and see the beauty within yourself inside-out without taking notice of the scars left from all those people and incidents throughout your life that have impacted upon you willingly or unwillingly, knowingly or unknowingly. You’ve allowed these all to enter and precondition your brain to defend yourself by controlling and hiding your true self. Also they’ve put your confidence and self worth down. We may be confident in work and making money and having it all in the material but if we don’t know our worth and do not love ourselves- we have nothing .

In being your true self, you are safe. You are protected. Just trust. And walk slowly but firmly , putting one foot in front of the other avoiding the same path from your past. You are now on a new journey.




Over 90% of relationships can be salvaged.

Your relationship is no different.

So it doesn’t matter what mistakes you’ve made or either of you made up until this point. It doesn’t matter if you’ve already begged and pleaded for him/ her to take you back. It doesn’t even matter if you think either of you are madly in love with another partner right now.

Your relationship with each other is fixable, even if you don’t think it’s possible for the other to ever love you again.


Now, Let’s Get Straight To The Facts 

But in order to fall back in love again with each other you both need to be aware of a few important facts:

FACT NUMBER ONE:  Chances are, you’re both so heartbroken right now that you’re probably doing or saying things that are pushing each other further away  without both of you even realizing you’re doing it. If you want to ever regain that attraction ever again, you’ll have to press the reset button.

FACT NUMBER TWO:  You’re going to have to accept that your ‘old’ relationship is gone, and you can’t have it back.  And that’s actually a good thing, because your ‘old’ relationship sucked anyway… After all, if your relationship was going so well, then why did you two break up?

Let me make it clear:  I don’t mean that you can’t be with  your ex back…. I mean that you both have to start a new relationship.  A healthy one, free of cheating and lies and all the other things that led to your breakup in the first place.  

FACT NUMBER THREE:  In order to be back with your ex and establish a new, healthy relationship, you need to erase all of the negative memories and thoughts they have of you… And replace them with positive ones.  You need to tap in to their primal, subconscious feelings and plant the seeds of passion, romance, and sexuality so that they can’t imagine themselves with anyone else.